Procrastination is probably one of the worst enemies in personal transformation and coaching helps to jump over this obstacle.
In the words of Norman Vincent Peale, one of my first motivators:
Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear.
So when you procrastinate, you are inactive and the root cause may be something we are afraid to ask ourselves. Maybe that is the self-preservation at work – we do not like to see what we perceive as the ugliness in us. See not the ugliness but the opportunity to become better.
Successful leaders and coaches will tell you to take full responsibility of your own actions be they successes or failures. Only when we are honest with ourselves are we able to determine the areas we need to change for the better.
Some are very self aware and that is half-way in winning the battle but it is the second half that is toughest – taking actions toward the desired outcome. Coaching takes centrestage in helping people to get over the mental block of “this is me and I cannot change what I am”. Human beings, believe it or not, are very adaptable creatures. What stop them is the stubborn and negative thinking going around in their heads, particularly how they see themselves. By pointing our thoughts towards something more positive changes the entire perspective of the “real” event. What we feed into our mind’s eye is the reality of the event.
No we do not see with our eyes alone, but also with our thoughts. It is the interpretation (thoughts, internal imagery and translation) of what we see that determines the reality of the events. If we can control how we process these on a consistent basis without letting the unattended thoughts getting a grip, we are on our way to mastery. We are smarter, more creative, interesting, knowledgeable, etc. than we give ourselves credit for. Throw all thoughts of not being good enough out of the window and start working on yourself. No more procrastination and straight on with action.
Until you are willing to try, nothing is gained. Once you get pass “Go”, you will gain the confidence to do more because now you know it is doable and you will replicate the success one after another. All fear dissipates.
I like the formula in the opening chapter of Jack Cranfield’s book “The Success Principles”:
Events (E) + Response (R) = Outcome (O)
How you see an event affects your response which in turn has a bearing on the outcome. If the outcome does not match the desired result, you will need to re-evaluate your views on the events and alter your response. Do this over and over again until you get it “right”.
What is “right” this instance may not be “right” for the next and hence a constant calibration is needed. It is a virtual cycle of test and evaluation that makes life interesting but the condition is to let loose “fear” and the potential can be unimaginably magnificent.
Sit quietly for a moment and consider this: if you abandon all your fears, what would you do? Who would you become? What are the likely positive outcomes? Can you see the beauty? Then ask yourself, what is stopping you? Which of your fears do you want to get rid of now? Seek out a coach to help you if you find this too overwhelming. Take the first step toward this vision and experience the beauty of your potential. Procrastinate no more, start taking action now.